First Impressions

Studies like this one from the Association of Psychological Science tell us, “Like it or not, judgments based on facial appearance play a powerful role in how we treat others, and how we get treated. Psychologists have long known that attractive people get better outcomes in practically all walks of life. People with “mature” faces receive more severe judicial outcomes than “baby-faced” people. And having a face that looks competent (as opposed to trustworthy or likeable) may matter a lot in whether a person gets elected to public office.” - source

It’s a tough line to walk. At all my various jobs-- group exercise, college courses,  tutoring-- I am front and center... and so is my appearance. Without fail, if I go to work without makeup, there are comments regarding how tired I look. (( I don’t have the heart to tell them that I am in a constant state of tired. )) I conceal it with various creams and potions, or perhaps some light reflecting serum to disguise the genetic dark circles I inherited from my father. 

Yesterday, makeup (and perhaps the recent Botox treatment) made me look ten years younger.  I was sampling a coworker’s bifocals and an associate commented something about me being in my late 20’s…that I had a long way to go before needing reading glasses.  My thoughtful friend in the room pointed out that I was MUCH older than that. (sigh)  I wasn’t allowed to enjoy even a moment of being mistaken for a younger version of myself.  

It’s all relative. 

I don’t mind what I see when I look in the mirror, with or without makeup.  Yet society and science both tell us that a judgment is instantaneously formulated.  Part of me could care less how I look to others, but my desire to be the “best me” is twofold. 

When I feel like I “look good,” something happens.  I automatically feel better.  It may be just slightly or it may be exponential.  This holds true especially when I know I’m sick or depressed.  If I dress up or make an effort, the world is a less cruel place.  

Secondly, I know the power of putting my best foot forward means there may be opportunities that, when looking like you don’t care about yourself/like you’re just managing to breathe, you’re less likely to be engaging or (gasp) interesting to others. 

You can't argue with me.  Attractive people have better odds in life.  It's human nature.  It's also my perfect excuse to buy more expensive serums ....and maybe keep Botoxing. Oh, yes... there is a fine line with that too.